”Hey! How much your child has got this time? ”
”Mine? Well, it’s just 90%. I thought my child will get more than 95%.”
O! But 90% is not less it’s good, I think your daughter is a rank holder in the class. ”
Another woman, ” Congratulations to you all! My child has got 74% and I don’t know how well I confront her father this time. ”
This is the usual conversation outside every school’s gate after a result is declared. It’s nothing new it’s very basic and very repetitive. But why so? Observation has shown that Parents think their children are their achievements. An achievement that they can showcase, feel proud of, and tell people. It’s a sad scenario when women like – Mrs. Batra, and Mrs. Gupta has to hide and come back from their child’s school because they don’t want to confront such questions in front of everyone most importantly other parents who are concerned only about marks, and think their children are their achievements. Even though they are satisfied they cannot showcase their happiness as it clashes with society’s stereotypical attributes.
Also, there are parents like Mrs. Taneja and more who think and ponder day and night till the wick of the Diya says hey! Stop! That their child is their pride their achievement. Such parents think their emotions are intertwined with their children which means it’s the children who decide whether their parents will be happy or sad. It’s okay logical enough to sustain but things take a topsiturvidum when you pressurize or think your child to be your achievement more than an individual self.
Like – Oh! We couldn’t afford to go abroad to study, we want our child to go.
Or
Can you wear the pink lagenga for the wedding invitation?
Or
Talk to me after a good salary package from a reputed MNC.
Here self-fulfillment is important. Your dreams are your dreams and please it’s request cont burden with your dream to your child. The child May have another dream to follow, another goal to achieve, and another song to sing and which is fine even if the tune is completely different from yours.
We all are individuals smiling laughing and gathering experiences of a lifetime. So it would be great if we become parents like Many still who think their child matters, their children are someone to be heard, their children are not puppets to satisfy the pious values of society or their own family rather they are individual self who can shape, break or make their path. Also maybe a new path that they will make and then walk upon it and yes if you can accept this you should also accept maybe your child will take the path which an uncountable number of people already walked upon, the most traveled road where the path, it’s shops, even the number of trees are known. Nothing is new. But your child’s experience and your child’s skills make everything unique.
Let your child fly, higher with a dream which he or she has seen for himself or herself and you are just being an integral part of the dream.
Yes if we follow this life can be very very simple as the end what matters is happiness through simplicity . More than a hundred-dollar prize or telling people you will be more proud and happy if your child can dare to do what he or she loves. And what can do best is to support your child. Nothing more.
As you matter and so you should have dreams just like your child.
Early Morning Memories 
2 responses to “Childrens’ Achievement”
The dialogue from Three Idiots by Virus: Laath marata hai, Footballer banega? Zaroor banana!
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Exactly! Why to pressurize when you know naturally the flower will grow the most beautiful one!
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