You know many times what we fail as a human being is creating a safe space . A safe space means to create a space where one can vent out without feeling judged.
You know we all have been in situations where we want to say a lot of things.. to someone whom we can trust but unfortunately if that someone judges us a lot then slowly we cease to share.
As venting out feelings telling about oneself is different and asking for solutions is different.
Also as I am writing I am thinking maybe I have also been judgemental to others and now I am thinking I shouldn’t have been judgemental when it’s my turn.
This thought came to my mind when I heard about my school friend Sukriti and her condition in her in-laws. We will not use any real name here so Sukriti is a pseudonym .
So Sukriti was married 4 years ago with the man with whom she was married for the last 3 years before marriage.
But after her marriage things are pretty good in every way … Supportive family, parents and husband. Everyone.
But Sukriti has certain problems with her body. She couldn’t invite the next generation to the process of giving birth. Though everyone is extremely supportive but it was quite difficult to think for them someone can have issues with their bodies.
If they have they can always have a clear space.
But no.. safe space is different and being supportive is different. Till today sukriti couldn’t have said this to her family.
No safe space. I was stunned to hear Sukriti’s story and it really gave me a spine chill.
I mean whatever we see is not the truth and whatever we believe may not be the truth as well.. what is truth which goes much deeper .. psychological and emotional too…
We need to understand supportive and having a safe space are two different things
Not being judgemental is important
Written by Sayoni Mahapatra Chatterji
Early Morning Memories 