Who are your favorite people to be around?
I have been more of an observant kind of person and after a while of making my presence formally felt in the presence of people, I like to find my corner of peace and calm and spend some time with my thoughts.
This can be a bit of a problem, as I recently discovered at an event where an author spoke about his book, a great personality by achievements. Although I wanted to hear everything he had to say, for I didn’t know when I would be able to again in this lifetime, yet I kept wandering off at thought of something or the else being mentioned by him while he kept on speaking, inaudibly (to me) and then I would wake into the present thinking ‘I am missing a lot here’.
So, you can say I can be a complex person to be with and I know it as being complex because one of my uncle’s also has a similar habit and I wonder each time he wanders off into a thought ‘is something going wrong in his life? Is there some suppressed pain that is getting to him? Is his professional life taking this kind of toll? Is he unwell’. It wasn’t a sudden realisation that I was the same and maybe people also probably felt the same about me, it took years.
Sadly, some of my favourite people, especially both my paternal and maternal grandparents are no longer in this world. Friendships are not what they used to be, everyone is quite busy with life, I am busy too to the point where I don’t know what I would miss more, work or friends. But yes, they used to be my favourite people at one point in life when we had the time, because they understood my silence, and whenever we find time to meet again, they become my favourite again in the moment, it’s one of those magical things about friendships.
So, I am more of a family person, I have great parents and in-laws, I can share a joke or two with all of them and make them smile and they can do the same for me. Now, I am here with my wife. I spend most of my everyday life with her, whether it is work time or it is family, we are together. I thought we wouldn’t be a good match considering she speaks a lot and I wander away into another world a lot, but it made sense with time. If my dog was a person, she would be my favourite person as well (but she is my favourite none the less) and same with the two goldfish in the aquarium.
I am open to knowing more people and maybe one day I would find more favourites out there or maybe I won’t. I know I am pretty one sided on this matter but life is full of surprises.
Written by Anuran Chatterji
Early Morning Memories 