Do you believe in soulmates? Why or why not?
When it comes to soulmates, we are quite familiar with the implication, as we are greatly influenced by everything we have seen, read or experienced, and the term presents itself at some point in one form or another.
When we hear of the word soulmates, naturally the instant image that conjures up in mind is of a man and woman (no disregard for other genders), with innate romantic feelings towards each other, so strong, that across lands and across time, through all the challenges, they move to unite at a point, where it feels like it was always meant to be.
It is a romanticised terminology, and it is quite apparently popular because despite all of the openness in our nature, we look forward to association with something stronger than just a simple feeling that can feel very fragile at times. Hence, no matter how well the bond is, the term soulmates definitely put’s a special mark on it.
When I initially came across the term, I was small, so I rather focussed on the literal meaning than its implication, so for me it began as souls that could be in any body, I mean there were so many cartoon characters depicting just that. What a disappointment at some point to realise that the cartoon characters were humanised and thus among many others things, this term was also always meant for humans or anything with human emotional capacity.
I however do not believe in soulmates. Yes, it is a very positive term and I want people to keep believing in it, with positivity in, but it does not work for me or maybe my understanding cannot grasp it.
Most people stay in their native country, they usually find their partners there, the cultural and spiritual understanding makes the compatibility better. Hence, there are not many who are from opposite points of the globe and coming together all of a sudden for no reason but this.
A bond takes more than just a term to prosper, to grow, to feel special. There are couples who are very happy in life; their bonds remain in our minds because of something unique they have and at the same time we give the credit to certain characteristics of the people involved rather than describing it with a single term. People even change so that their bonds can become better.
So, are these couples with good bongs soulmates? I will not say a definite no but I am certainly not so sure about yes; according to me they are simply people who made it work. It didn’t occur magically, they knowingly or unknowingly put the right kind of effort and understanding, and that’s most of what is needed to make something better of this life.
Written by Anuran Chatterji
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